Friday, 22 February 2008

• Social Tiers

   

                  I sat down a few weeks back with a friend who is a sociology major and we discussed people.

  The conversation had many different subjects like how to convince someone to change, concepts of love, and the one I found most interesting, Social Tiers. One of the things which is expressed though all pickup teachings, is to be social. You have to better your social circle and meet new people. Social Tiers is the concept of how men and women organize their social activities for a week. 

   

                  To begin, there are four tiers, no specific names for the tiers just one through four.  These tiers hold anyone we engage socially in a friendly way. This excludes people you meet for one night and never see again; you have to befriend these people in some way.  

   

  Tier classification is as follows:

  Tier one holds your best friends, your boy/girl friend, and anyone you’re interested in dating. These are people you have really connected to.

  Tier two holds people you enjoy hanging out with and call up if your best friends are busy, examples would be your wing or any wing, a girl you ended up in the friend zone with, and so on.

  Tier three holds people you can hang out with but do not really feel like dealing with. Examples are that annoying guy from work, the girl who is always all over you but you don’t like.

  Tier four are those people you almost hate to be around, you don’t want to be seen with them and try to creep around late with them in hopes of your not recognized, im sure you all know someone like that.

   

  Inner-workings of the tier for men

                  A man organizes his social activities around the week in a predictable and typical order. He will first establish plans with his tier ones, he likes them and wants to be around them so he will always call them first and odds are you will see your tier one friends more than one time a week so you might call your tier 1 on Monday and try to hang out that night or mid week and that weekend. If a tier 1 ditches out then a man will move into his tier two. Odds are a man will call his tier two on a Tuesday or Wednesday night with hopes of doing something fun.  After tier two comes tier 3, a man will most likely call a tier 3 on Wednesday or Thursday night and do something, nothing crazy just something normal like a movie. Lastly is tier 4 and this is an odd tier, a man will only call his tier 4 in a time of desperation, if all other tiers have bailed out on him then he will resort to calling his tier 4 probably at last minute say a Friday night. Often a man will avoid his tier 4 until he is contacted by them in which case the following will occur.

  Man: Hello

  T4: hey how have you been?

  Man: oh I’m good how about you

  T4: I’m doing well, we should hang out soon

  Man: yea that would be cool, give me a call soon and we will.

  Notice that a time frame for “soon” was not established because the man wants to avoid tier 4 if he is not in a state of desperation but is also friendly incase ne needs tier 4 in the future. In a state of desperation a man might also contact tier 4 and then the above conversation is reversed except that the man will then specify on the term of soon.

   

  Inner-workings of the tier for women

   

  This is the fun part honestly, women are different from men where the man wants to put tier 4 last a women will put her tier 4 first. Here is how it works.

  A woman will call her tier 4 on a Monday or Tuesday hoping to hang out with them earlier in the week, why you might ask, because she wants to appease tier 4 as a friend but avoid having to deal with her over the weekend.

  After a woman deals with tier 4 on Monday or Tuesday she will then move to tier 3 on Tuesday or Wednesday in hopes of keeping her appeased as well followed by tier 2 so that once Friday-Sunday rolls around a woman can spend the night life and weekend with her tier 1, her closest friends. Simple concepts really once you understand how a man’s works you see that a woman’s is reversed.

  Summarized

  A man will spend his week by fulfilling his main desires first, seeing tier 1 and then going through 4.

  A woman will spend her week doing the opposite, appeasing tier 4,3, and 2 so that they will stay clear of her weekend with tier 1.

  Why is any of this helpful?

  Take into consideration that a woman works on an emotional level and a man on a physical level, a woman’s tier 1 will be her best friends who she can experience anything with so to be part of a womans tier one you will have to be her friend, so odds are you want to avoid a woman’s tier one unless you are her “significant other” or else you end up in the friends zone. Also, we as men will put women in our tier 1 very quickly and this could hurt us because we are quick to invite tier ones to anything and that could appear needy. A suggestion is to keep women of interest on a tier 2 level and keep yourself on a tier 2 level unless you master a way to be on tier one and not be a friend. Also, keep in mind that an individual can be moved throughout tiers so someone on your tier one can upset you and you might move them to a tier 4 and women are the same, you could be a 2 one day and a 4 the next.

   

  That’s the concept of social tiers and honestly I feel like I am forgetting something but it escapes me at the moment so if I remember I will add it in and if not then I guess this is complete.. but nothing is ever perfect.

   

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